Break Free! …from the “Ya-But” Mindset

I’m looking out at the ocean right now. Spring has sprung! But that’s not what we’re talking about today. We’re talking about something else, something that I’ve been thinking about for quite a while. And I bet you have thought about it from time to time, as well. Especially when I ask you a couple questions, you’ll figure it out. 

Have you ever told someone about something that you really, really wanted to do or that you really wanted badly and then, YA BUTed, it? For instance: I really want to start my own business, but I have no clue what to do or how to start it, or even better…

I really want to start my own business, but I don’t have any money to start it. And it didn’t work last time or my favorite. This is the one I did for so long “I really want to go to Italy and I want to take Tulli, but I don’t even know where to start or how I would pay for it” OR the best phrase of all “it hasn’t happened yet”. And “I just don’t have time to figure it out”, which is total BS. So I know I’ve said these things to myself, and I’m curious if you have said that as well with something that has meant a lot to you? I feel that we find ways to YA, BUT it, all the time, and then pretty much every single one of these “YA BUTS” continues on. Then we’re 50, 60, 70 years old and we’ve “YA BUTed” it and done nothing about it. 

There’s something in our brains that continues this and it makes it seem all right for us because ultimately it is our own ego that in a sense wants to keep us safe. And by doing that, it keeps us small. So it constantly gives excuses of why something can’t happen. So no matter what you want, you add the BUT to the phrase. The second you add the but to the sentence, it negates the whole phrase and that’s what you will get no matter what! So this is where we need to have a mind shift. And what’s really cool is that it’s very easy to do. So today we are going to BREAK FREE. We’ve got to break free, and that’s exactly what we’re going to talk about today.

How do you talk to yourself in general? You know, think about the things that you say to yourself and ask yourself this question. 

Would you allow somebody else to talk to you that way? And we end up speaking that mind trash to ourselves over and over again.

How do you talk to yourself about your dreams and your goals that are so near to you? That’s really deep in your heart, your passion, what you want to do with your life, where do you want to go? Where do you want to travel? What do you want to do? We ended up spending so much time being constricted and not doing what we want and making excuses for it. When it’s in our head, it’s a mindset shift. Otherwise, it’s 10, 20, 30 years later and you still haven’t done it.

These excuses then turn into regret. And then your heart hurts because of it. And what’s worse. You haven’t given that gift to the world, which is why you had the idea in the first place. It’s not you, it’s Source coming through you.

 If you don’t change your mindset and release the trash talk that’s coming out your mouth, your head, and you’re continuously telling yourself that,  it will always be an unfulfilled dream. And that is, as I said,  regret. You never want to go through life with regret. You know you want to slide in at the last minute of your life going, “yeah, I’ve done it all!” 

 

I’m going to share with you what you can do to actually get rid of these excuses. The fear that comes with taking those first steps toward your passion and living a fulfilled life with fun, high vibes on your terms.

3 Things to Break Free from these thought patterns.

  • No longer argue for your limitations. Let go of the fear. Instead, think “What If?”  What if there are no limitations? That is remembering what others believe, what you are told, from past experiences. Anything is possible. It’s all mindset. So no longer argue for your limitations. Think about what can you do? What if, and when you say, “what if”, it opens up a whole new part of the brain that allows for inspiration to start flowing to you and that’s when inspired ideas happen and then you never know what will be the next thing to do. It could be as small as a thought to turn right. And then pretty soon you go right without knowing why and you meet somebody that knows somebody else, the line, and then things just manifest. It happens to me all the time. 

Here’s an example of no limitations and allowing inspiration to show up. Tulli, I have to mention her, because she’s so important in my life, but she’s also important in my business and the things that happen, because of her. We go do things, go out for walks and while we were in Italy, it happened all the time. She would want to go a certain direction or stop somewhere and I would connect with the right random person or we would end up touring a palazzo. It was uncanny how often this happened.  I just said yes. It happens here too, it just happened two days ago. She wanted to go down into this side area and I said, okay, we’ll do it. Then I met somebody that I hadn’t seen in a while. We had the most amazing conversation and wonderful things came about because of it. So think about these things and listen for the inspiration to show up. 

  • No longer allow the past to dictate the present and in turn, it no longer holds tight to your future. By always thinking about what happened in the past and how it didn’t work, you manifest it again today and in turn, will continue happening moving forward. What happened yesterday,  the experiences from your past, whether it was illnesses, accidents, even people in your life, it doesn’t matter and those circumstances are not today. Those past situations have nothing to do with this exact moment. You are not the same person today as you were back then.  It doesn’t exist today. If you step forward today with that thought, then tomorrow has a chance at being exponentially better and extraordinary and your dream showing up, as well. You can have it, no matter what, it doesn’t matter. Always remember, you can do anything!

 

  • Stop looking at what you don’t have to justify what you want. Really think about that.  How many times have you justified some misgiving, to be able to “be worthy” to have what you want? I’ve done this for years and didn’t even realize it.  I did it because I felt guilty about what I wanted. Because I didn’t blah blah and these horrible things happened, then I’m justified in having what I want and experiencing a really good life. We do not need to justify what we want in life or good things happening EVER!  Stop looking at what you don’t have to justify what you want. You can have it! No longer feel guilty about anything you want. You can have it all, GO BIG, GO BIGGER than you could possibly think, and step into what you want. When you step into that, when you step into what you truly want with your life, own it in the bigness that it is, and in the bigness that you are. Then wondrous things happen.

So you don’t need to justify your life. You don’t need to justify the awesomeness that you are, and you don’t need to justify the awesomeness that’s coming to you or what you have right now, you deserve it. You are worthy. You are awesome. This is so important. You are meant for more. 

Never, never to fit someone else’s idea of you, because it has nothing to do with them. It’s none of their business. And most importantly, it’s really just showing you their own ideas of themselves. They want to keep you small because they feel uncomfortable when you get big, go big, always. 

RECAP    1. No longer argue for your limitations. Let it go. Let the fear, let all the BS go, and think “what if?” 2. No longer allow the past to step into the present and in turn, hold tight to your future. What happened yesterday? What happened a week ago? What happened a year ago? It’s not today,  and does not hold in this space and doesn’t need to be a part of your life at all. The more you let go and step into the “what ifs,” the more magnificence can happen around you because it can manifest. The law of Allowing – allow goodness to come into your life and remember the law of attraction. What you think about you’re going to get. So let that pass go and be in the moment and just experience life. Remember when you were a child and all the wonderful things that you were so excited about because you had no idea you couldn’t. Be in that space. 3. Stop looking at what you don’t have to justify what you want. You are worthy. You can have it. It’s yours, no need to justify it. Go bigger than big. Think as big as you can possibly think, and then go bigger yet.  

“Never shrink to fit somebody else’s idea of you. It’s not their business. Nothing is their business.” 

What’s really unique is our mindset causes things to manifest. All our synapses in our brains are attached like pathways, these are thoughts we’ve been thinking, things we’ve been saying to ourselves, what we’ve been doing over and over. It’s like roads, rutted roads that go the same direction. When you can change those roads and go a different direction, you start a new habit, you start a new mindset, you start a new thought and what comes in the mind makes a total difference. So to begin removing the old pathways and building new and improved ones, I use essential oils. I’ve been using them now for many, many years. There are three essential oils that specifically work to release the old mindset to activate the brain synapses in the brain and wake it up. This allows you to put in a new positive mindset and bring in the highest, most possible potential that you can think and do and that you can achieve. 

These oils I use are Release, Brain Power, and Highest Potential.

I use these all the time. What’s interesting is that there’s an actual practice that you can do using the oils to work through the old thought patterns, figure out where the thoughts came from, go in and replace them with new, empowering thoughts that serve you. This practice is called the Memory Release Technique. *Ask me about these oils and the technique and I will email it to you. 

What do you “YA BUT? The more you are aware the more you start noticing these entrained thought processes and get off the mental cruise control and begin to change it. Nothing’s ever going to change on its own. We have to change this and it starts with us now!

We must vibrate higher and change the way we look at things so that we can have the life that we want, that we desire. We can’t do that by just making a BS excuse and living the same way, we have to change it. *The best way is to start. Take the first step, believe in yourself, love yourself, and know that you’re worth it. You can do anything you want. Anything is possible.*

If you would like to get the oils I mentioned, shoot me an email @ IAmCreativelyLisa@gmail.com and I will give you the complete Memory Release Technique with steps and a PDF worksheet to go with it for FREE.

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